stacky
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Post by stacky on May 3, 2021 0:00:01 GMT -4
I started working at a small retail store in February, and just about a month ago or so, I met a coworker there who works day shifts in the back (I'm night shifts up front). I met him when I was returning some items to the shelf. He like... came over to me out of nowhere and helped me find all the places to put the items, lol.
He is known for being quiet around his other coworkers, but whenever we get the chance, he's really nice and talkative to me?
I've found some things with common with him too. But the funny thing is that, there is a 5 year age gap between us, with him being older than me. I thought he was my age (19). I found this out after asking him about college, and he said he had a degree and attended the same college I am currently at. I still see him as my age though cause he looks really young yet and he doesn't have an "adult demeanor" to him (He's not immature though).
Anyways,
I understand if you guys have no advice, lol, but how should I proceed?
Should I get his phone number? Or should I just keep talking to this guy and see what happens? Or should I just be super direct and say I like him (even tho I don't know if he likes me back or not cause he's shy, it makes it hard to tell.)
I'm terrible at this whole dating thing, and I don't want to like, make things awkward between us either if it turns out he doesn't like me, cause I enjoy his friendship
yeah any advice would be appreciated lmao
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Post by Bannanachair on May 3, 2021 0:16:45 GMT -4
Honestly, it comes down to what you want - do you want to ask him out enough to justify the risk of making things potentially awkward, or do you enjoy his friendship to such an extent that you don't want to do anything to potentially ruin it? It's also worth maybe figuring out his orientation first, especially given the, uh, unique complications that arise in ace/allo relationships. Either way, I would advise being direct and up-front about what you're after. If you have a crush on him, and want something to happen as a result of it, literally just tell him - there's nothing more obnoxious in a TV-show than a drawn-out will they/won't they storyline.
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stacky
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Post by stacky on May 3, 2021 0:26:31 GMT -4
Honestly, it comes down to what you want - do you want to ask him out enough to justify the risk of making things potentially awkward, or do you enjoy his friendship to such an extent that you don't want to do anything to potentially ruin it? It's also worth maybe figuring out his orientation first, especially given the, uh, unique complications that arise in ace/allo relationships. Either way, I would advise being direct and up-front about what you're after. If you have a crush on him, and want something to happen as a result of it, literally just tell him - there's nothing more obnoxious in a TV-show than a drawn-out will they/won't they storyline. yeah I'm worried about the ace part too, but I also don't know how to discuss that either lol But that's true, it probably is better to just say it instead of dragging it out. But I'm also not sure about the friendship thing. Maybe I should just learn more about him and see if things happen naturally? Not sure, this is hard lol |
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Post by Bannanachair on May 3, 2021 0:38:57 GMT -4
Honestly, it comes down to what you want - do you want to ask him out enough to justify the risk of making things potentially awkward, or do you enjoy his friendship to such an extent that you don't want to do anything to potentially ruin it? It's also worth maybe figuring out his orientation first, especially given the, uh, unique complications that arise in ace/allo relationships. Either way, I would advise being direct and up-front about what you're after. If you have a crush on him, and want something to happen as a result of it, literally just tell him - there's nothing more obnoxious in a TV-show than a drawn-out will they/won't they storyline. yeah I'm worried about the ace part too, but I also don't know how to discuss that either lol But that's true, it probably is better to just say it instead of dragging it out. But I'm also not sure about the friendship thing. Maybe I should just learn more about him and see if things happen naturally? Not sure, this is hard lol For the ace part, I think the thing to do would be bring it up on, like, the first date or maybe before. Like, maybe get something with the ace pride flag on it, or one of those black rings if you don't already wear one, and try to use that to start a conversation about what being asexual/alloromantic means to you and gauge his reaction before asking him out. Or mention it on the first date, "lots of guys seem to have an issue with this, so just to get it out there, I'm asexual, but not aromantic, so that means that I like cuddling and romance but please don't put anything inside me". Things don't "happen naturally" between people; someone always has to initiate. This isn't just for romantic relationships, but also for friendships, getting a job, etc. Take your time if you'd like, but know that you're only delaying the decision that you'll inevitably have to make - to be with him, or not to be with him, that is the question. |
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Post by stacky on May 3, 2021 2:13:57 GMT -4
yeah I'm worried about the ace part too, but I also don't know how to discuss that either lol But that's true, it probably is better to just say it instead of dragging it out. But I'm also not sure about the friendship thing. Maybe I should just learn more about him and see if things happen naturally? Not sure, this is hard lol For the ace part, I think the thing to do would be bring it up on, like, the first date or maybe before. Like, maybe get something with the ace pride flag on it, or one of those black rings if you don't already wear one, and try to use that to start a conversation about what being asexual/alloromantic means to you and gauge his reaction before asking him out. Or mention it on the first date, "lots of guys seem to have an issue with this, so just to get it out there, I'm asexual, but not aromantic, so that means that I like cuddling and romance but please don't put anything inside me". Things don't "happen naturally" between people; someone always has to initiate. This isn't just for romantic relationships, but also for friendships, getting a job, etc. Take your time if you'd like, but know that you're only delaying the decision that you'll inevitably have to make - to be with him, or not to be with him, that is the question. I'm not one to be very revealing about my identity in general, it's something that I really just mention whenever the situation calls for it. And, okay, this sounds weird, but he doesn't seem like a sexual person? Like, yeah I'm sure it's possible, but he also doesn't have that demeanor around him, if that makes sense? But appearances can be deceiving... I think I'll think about that whole talk too a bit more. For right now... I think my first course of action will be somehow asking for his phone number so I can get to know him even better |
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Post by stacky on May 25, 2021 0:30:12 GMT -4
so update: we've been talking quite a bit, i found out about his hobbies/interests, and we've been giving each other music recommendations we both always initiate convos, and we both find time out of our workday to talk to each other or we both walk and talk together i have his number and we text a little bit, but he is not tech savvy whatsoever, i dont ever see him using his phone and he doesnt have any social media so i just think he's not the texting type my friend told me that he called me nice when she mentioned my name im not sure if he likes me back or if he's just being really nice he's awfully sweet and he makes me really happy  |
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Post by Baise-moi on May 27, 2021 21:53:50 GMT -4
Get his number and talk about school if nothing else. From there spark up other conversations that are mildly related but become progressively more distant from the original subject.
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stacky
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Post by stacky on May 28, 2021 0:26:32 GMT -4
Get his number and talk about school if nothing else. From there spark up other conversations that are mildly related but become progressively more distant from the original subject. Him and I have been talking about everything, really. We talk about music together, his college experience, my college experience, hobbies, etc. When we're at work, him and I always find opportunities to talk to each other even if it's like for one minute. He doesn't talk to anyone else really, he's opened up to me quite a bit. |
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Post by God Bebi Satan on May 28, 2021 8:01:22 GMT -4
SHOW US KEVINS MEAT
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Post by Bannanachair on May 28, 2021 13:09:00 GMT -4
he's awfully sweet and he makes me really happy If/when you ask him out, tell him this. Like, this might be legitimately one of the best pick-up lines I've ever seen. |
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stacky
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Post by stacky on May 28, 2021 23:41:53 GMT -4
he's awfully sweet and he makes me really happy If/when you ask him out, tell him this. Like, this might be legitimately one of the best pick-up lines I've ever seen. Really? I was just genuinely complimenting him, but I guess I could see it working as a pick-up line too, lol |
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Post by Bannanachair on May 29, 2021 6:29:58 GMT -4
If/when you ask him out, tell him this. Like, this might be legitimately one of the best pick-up lines I've ever seen. Really? I was just genuinely complimenting him, but I guess I could see it working as a pick-up line too, lol That's what makes it effective, the fact that it's genuine. |
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Post by God Bebi Satan on May 30, 2021 1:32:44 GMT -4
SHOW US IM WAITING
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stacky
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Post by stacky on Jun 10, 2021 23:56:40 GMT -4
update #2: I left work early one day because I felt sick And I got a text saying, "Hey I was looking for you today at work. Did you leave early or something?" I told him I was sick and he said "I hope you feel better". Then when I came back to work the other day, he asked if I was feeling better. Yeah, maybe he is being nice but it's just a nice feeling that someone checks up on you.  My crushing brain hasn't stopped thinking about that little conversation lol. |
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Post by Bannanachair on Jun 22, 2021 19:45:48 GMT -4
update #2: I left work early one day because I felt sick And I got a text saying, "Hey I was looking for you today at work. Did you leave early or something?" I told him I was sick and he said "I hope you feel better". Then when I came back to work the other day, he asked if I was feeling better. Yeah, maybe he is being nice but it's just a nice feeling that someone checks up on you. My crushing brain hasn't stopped thinking about that little conversation lol. Jesus Christ just ask him out already. If he says yes you'll regret not having asked sooner; if he says no, hey, at least you got it over with quickly. |
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Post by stacky on Jun 22, 2021 22:15:19 GMT -4
update #2: I left work early one day because I felt sick And I got a text saying, "Hey I was looking for you today at work. Did you leave early or something?" I told him I was sick and he said "I hope you feel better". Then when I came back to work the other day, he asked if I was feeling better. Yeah, maybe he is being nice but it's just a nice feeling that someone checks up on you. My crushing brain hasn't stopped thinking about that little conversation lol. Jesus Christ just ask him out already. If he says yes you'll regret not having asked sooner; if he says no, hey, at least you got it over with quickly. youre right lmao, one of these days i will |
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Post by Bannanachair on Jun 22, 2021 22:44:11 GMT -4
Jesus Christ just ask him out already. If he says yes you'll regret not having asked sooner; if he says no, hey, at least you got it over with quickly. youre right lmao, one of these days i will In the immortal words of Sheev Palpatine: do it. |
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Post by CUM PISSER LEGO on Jun 24, 2021 16:53:06 GMT -4
JUST GO UP TO HIM. IF YOU'RE NERVOUS OR WORRIED ABOUT HOW HE'LL REACT START WITH A COMPLIMENT. THERE IS NO MAN IN THE WORLD THAT WILL NOT LOVE AND CHERISH EVEN THE SIMPLEST OF COMPLIMENTS.
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Post by Tikobe on Jun 24, 2021 16:56:55 GMT -4
JUST GO UP TO HIM. IF YOU'RE NERVOUS OR WORRIED ABOUT HOW HE'LL REACT START WITH A COMPLIMENT. THERE IS NO MAN IN THE WORLD THAT WILL NOT LOVE AND CHERISH EVEN THE SIMPLEST OF COMPLIMENTS. This name is legendary, and this comment will be preserved in the hall of fame for eternity |
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Post by Bannanachair on Dec 3, 2021 21:21:36 GMT -4
Jesus Christ just ask him out already. If he says yes you'll regret not having asked sooner; if he says no, hey, at least you got it over with quickly. youre right lmao, one of these days i will So how did it go? |
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Post by stacky on Dec 13, 2021 2:07:56 GMT -4
youre right lmao, one of these days i will So how did it go? Lmao So, It didn't work out. We're still acquaintances, but I work somewhere else now, so we don't really talk. But about 3/4 months ago, I reached out to a guy who was in one of my computer science classes last year. We used to help each other with homework a lot, and we got along pretty well. So, I was like, hey why not, it's a new semester at college, I should socialize or something lol. Shortly after reaching out to him and talking a lot, we decided to have weekly lunch together on campus. There was a schoolwide day off on one of our scheduled weekly lunches, so we decided to go get lunch outside of campus... and watch a movie and take a long walk. Basically, it turned into a date.  Our 4 month anniversary is coming up on Jan. 6th, and we are going to go on a vacation together around that time for about 5 days. I'm very excited |
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Post by God Bebi Satan on Dec 14, 2021 20:46:36 GMT -4
SICK
good work
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stacky
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Post by stacky on Dec 16, 2021 0:41:21 GMT -4
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